tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post7083548495372045964..comments2023-10-21T07:55:34.085-04:00Comments on RevCyn: Wedding TipsCynthia L. Landrumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02858232066200226342noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-1053821510358336602010-09-30T10:53:29.261-04:002010-09-30T10:53:29.261-04:00Outdoor wedding issues need a whole separate blog ...Outdoor wedding issues need a whole separate blog post? - oh.my.goodness.yes.Earthbound Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14042611502142798184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-70655812463404000792010-09-29T22:02:18.438-04:002010-09-29T22:02:18.438-04:00@Earthbound,
And outdoor wedding issues need a who...@Earthbound,<br />And outdoor wedding issues need a whole separate blog post, don't they?Cynthia L. Landrumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02858232066200226342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-59939319663768493012010-09-29T22:00:34.807-04:002010-09-29T22:00:34.807-04:00@Earthbound Spirit -- Aisle runners at outdoorwedd...@Earthbound Spirit -- Aisle runners at <i>outdoor</i>weddings are even worse! Bumpy=more tripping!<br /><br />And, yes, videographers, too! And photographers or videographers who think they should stand where the wedding party stands!<br /><br />@Top Wedding Sites -- good job with your son! Thank you for understanding both the importance of the ceremony and also how the couple transfers that feeling of special day to everyone else around them sometimes. :)Cynthia L. Landrumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02858232066200226342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-23397344586276767692010-09-29T15:05:07.946-04:002010-09-29T15:05:07.946-04:00I actually appreciate this piece (even though it&#...I actually appreciate this piece (even though it's admittedly a little snotty). Couples spend more time and effort on the reception some almost forget to select an officiant. My son is getting married in a few weeks and from the time they became engaged we discussed the importance of the ceremony and why it's so important. I wish other parents would too. I think we'd have much less divorce.<br />And, yes, many couples do get caught up in their wedding being the only thing in their lives while having the expectation that everyone else in their social circle feel the same. Weddings are wonderful and exciting, but shouldn't take over our lives.Top Wedding Siteshttp://www.topweddingsites.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-24643935017951038622010-09-29T15:03:11.516-04:002010-09-29T15:03:11.516-04:00Preach!
I would add videographers, too. Just di...Preach! <br />I would add videographers, too. Just did a wedding last weekend where the videographer had set up three(!) cameras, one of which stood exactly where the flower girl had been instructed, during rehearsal, to stand. First time I dealt with a videographer - not looking forward to a next time... Argh.<br /><br />On the other hand - I've never had to deal with an aisle runner. Most weddings I do are outdoors, or in peoples' homes, and those that are in churches just haven't had any.Earthbound Spirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14042611502142798184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-21098774644519931852010-09-29T13:41:33.889-04:002010-09-29T13:41:33.889-04:00Oh, and of course I rise above that with couples, ...Oh, and of course I rise above that with couples, and generally that's why I've avoided writing this snotty piece for years. ;)Cynthia L. Landrumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02858232066200226342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-19156752528066833452010-09-29T13:40:28.093-04:002010-09-29T13:40:28.093-04:00More about "importance." I suspect, Ade...More about "importance." I suspect, Adele, that you were not one of the brides to which this is pointed. But there is definitely the phenomenon of importance where the wedding becomes such a big deal to the people involved that they start to forget that the whole world doesn't revolve around their needs for their day. There are weddings that have been very special for me, usually because they're with members of my congregation or they're for friends and family. Most other weddings are just another job. I'm glad to be part of your special day, and I want it to be special for you, but I'm just saying it's not all that special for me. When that sense of a special day comes with a sense of your own importance, sometimes it gets a bit overbearing.<br /><br />Yes, I'm taking a snotty tone in this piece. It's not personal against any one person or even wedding couples in the general--just giving air to some things that build up in clergy.Cynthia L. Landrumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02858232066200226342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-89929482746944385292010-09-29T12:59:41.636-04:002010-09-29T12:59:41.636-04:00I totally understand where you are coming from her...I totally understand where you are coming from here, and I think your practical tips and suggestions are valid and necessary. I am just a little put off by your very first point about entitlement and importance. <br /><br />Yes, the wedding day is important to the couple, and they have selected you to share one of the most important days of their lives. I was married by a JoP because I was not a UU at the time of my wedding. If I were getting married now, I would definitely want my minister to perform my wedding, and frankly, I would be disappointed and hurt if I thought he did it with an attitude of "No big deal. Just another wedding." <br /><br /> Regarding entitlement, I am a strong supporter of marriage equality, but I am not ashamed to admit that on my wedding day concern about those who were unfairly prevented from marrying was not at the forefront of my mind. I can see where the clergy person would be bothered by a couple treating her as if she were a prop or an extra in the performance that is their wedding, and such an attitude from a couple would be completely out of line in my opinion, but I think we need to excuse a couple from being a little self-absorbed on their wedding day. That is only to be expected.<br /><br />Equally to be expected is "wedding burn-out" on the part of the minister of course. I would like to think the minister would at least try to rise above that. My minister gave a sermon I found incredibly moving about how the legalization of same-sex marriage helped him appreciate the honor and opportunity inherent in playing a role in the official joining of so many couples. If you are interested, you can read the sermon here: http://www.ucdsm.org/sermons/2009%20sermons/2009-10-17-18%20Standing%20in%20a%20River%20of%20Love.pdf<br /><br />Peace,<br />AdeleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7690830057835669205.post-12518153527059969422010-09-28T18:43:10.222-04:002010-09-28T18:43:10.222-04:00Speak it, sister!Speak it, sister!Lilylouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02328027965155428624noreply@blogger.com